Every child has a right to be heard. When schools and families work together in response to the concerns of boys, positive outcomes can be achieved.
The notion that boys will adjust as they learn to develop, unsupported by adult role models, is usually misguided. In fact, when a child is bullied and encouraged to ignore the bullying behaviour the ramifications can be disastrous. It could send the message that bullying behaviour is acceptable, reinforcing that behaviour. Further, the perpetrator is left undisciplined to focus his attention on other boys.
Oftentimes, schools are left uninformed when boys have a problem. Although we encourage boys to speak to staff when issues arise, this does not always eventuate. When a child feels they cannot speak up of their own accord, parents need to advocate for their son. They need to be his voice, calling attention to his need for help.
At Trinity we have a proven pastoral care network where every staff member has a responsibility to help resolve issues for boys. We offer exceptionally high levels of individual student attention that allow for every boy to be known and nurtured.
We also recognise the vital role that parents play in addressing bullying. Schools and parents must partner together to create a positive and safe environment for children.
We have developed some practical tips for parents on how to partner with schools when issues arise to address concerns of bullying:
- Provide love and reassurance to your son and demonstrate that you will support him to solve the issue.
- Create a culture of openness within the home to encourage your child to come forward with concerns of bullying, should this situation ever arise.
- Discuss bullying behaviour with your child - how to identify all its various forms; how to react if they are being bullied.
- If an incident of bullying is raised by your child, report it immediately to the school. Any report of bullying should always be taken seriously. Every school will have a Grievance Policy that clearly states who you should report issues to in the first instance. At Trinity, concerns can initially be raised with classroom teachers, Sportsmasters, school counsellors, Housemasters and Deputy Masters. If you are in doubt about whom to contact, we encourage parents to phone the School – our staff will happily point you in the right direction.
- If you feel the situation is not being handled appropriately, raise your concerns with the relevant Head of School or Head Master.
Bullying is an issue that requires staff, students and parents to work together to establish a culture that rejects bullying in all its forms.
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