Adolescence is a tumultuous time for boys and a period of rapid change. As parents, we can recognise it is the beginning of what can be an awkward and confusing time. Adolescence is also a time when boys will develop life skills they will carry into their adult lives.
By Greg Webster, Trinity Grammar School Chaplain
It's 1:30pm Wednesday – any Wednesday. It’s lunchtime and you're standing in the line at the cafeteria. It's a time for quiet reflection. None of your friends are around so there is no one to talk to. As you quietly contemplate the deep philosophical matters of your last English class, you notice the student in front of you in the line.
He's been running around on number two oval. The sweat is dripping off him, his shirt is wet and stuck to his back. You think quietly to yourself that this is not the greatest human specimen you've ever seen.
Safety is always at the forefront of our mind when it comes to our children. Our natural response is to protect our children from harm, but we have to be careful not to overprotect them. It is important that children gain increasing levels of independence in order to lead fulfilling adult lives. Encouraging a small level of independence from a young age, and recognising when to increase this level of independence is vital for your son to develop necessary life skills.
In this ever-increasing digital age, some of us are guilty of having closer relationships with our devices rather than those we love most. A quick check of what’s new on Instagram or your latest WhatsApp thread, can result in many minutes – even hours – absorbed in meaningless online browsing.
With so much happening in the digital world, are you really present; listening and contemplating the thoughts and feelings of those around you?
The benefits of public transport usage and independent active travel for students
There are a number of physical, mental and social benefits associated with independent travel to and from school. It is well understood that walking and cycling are most beneficial to students in terms of overall health and fitness. Dr Michael Carr-Gregg links these active modes of transport to greater time spent outdoors, which in turn has a significant impact on a child’s mental health and stress levels.
On the whole, you could be forgiven for thinking our kids have never had it so good. They’re likely to be healthier, wealthier and better educated than any generation before them. But increasingly, they report feeling anxious, stressed and depressed.
In a 2016 KidsHelpline report, the organisation reported that it received 3,828 counselling contacts (74 contacts a week, or 11 a day) in relation to bullying. And now, a new study has found that children experiencing bullying are more likely to experience some impact on their academic performance.
At Trinity, your son will experience a wealth of opportunities, allowing him to discover and develop his innate talents, skills and aspirations through the School’s extensive range of exceptional educational programmes.
One of Sydney's leading schools, Trinity prides itself on consistently having students in the top one per cent of the state, with many students graduating with University scholarships to leading institutions around the world. Our varied and engaging teaching methods incorporate authenticity and real-world learning. This ensures every Trinity boy is challenged, inspired and guided to become a successful, compassionate, internationally-minded man.
In a world where there is pressure to succeed, relationships to negotiate and an increasing need to ‘fit in’, young people need support and reassurance from individuals they respect. While support can, and should come from you as parents, your son may benefit from guidance, advice and reassurance from beyond his family unit.
Mentors are usually individuals with more life experience. They have knowledge to impart and can support your son in his journey towards adulthood. They may be a facilitator of curiosity and critical thinking skills, someone to encourage enjoyment in learning, a promoter of life skills and wellbeing, or a role model for future success.
Teenagers have a lot of think about; assessments, examinations, sporting commitments, co-curricular activities, friendships and social status. They need time to refresh their mind, body and spirit in order to stay strong, motivated and mentally focused.
Particularly during exam periods, taking time out may be viewed as a negative thing. This shouldn’t however be the case. Actually, it allows boys time for rejuvenation and can reinvigorate them for the next challenge.
Still not convinced? Here are six reasons why it's OK for your son to take time out.
It is natural for boys to test boundaries and they do so across all developmental stages. When they are young, they don’t always understand the potential for negative outcomes or consequences, especially when they get swept up in the moment, driven by adrenaline and encouraged by their friends.
Discussing risks and consequences with your son is something you will need to do on a regular basis – from the early years when he may test his physical capabilities – to the teenage years when he will explore his independence. Unmanaged risk-taking can lead to dangerous behaviours including binge drinking, smoking, drug taking, aggressive driving and aggressive behaviour.