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What to do if your son is being bullied

Posted by Trinity Grammar School on May 5, 2016 6:00:00 AM

What to do if your son is being bullied.Bullying is a form of harassment which involves repeated intimidation, over time, of a less powerful person by a more powerful person or group of people.

What is bullying?
Bullying can present in a variety of forms including:

Face to face bullying:

  • Physically harming someone
  • Giving nasty looks, calling names, consistently teasing, being rude or impolite and making rude gestures

Covert (may be referred to as indirect) bullying:

  • Intentionally excluding students (online or offline)
  • Making threats
  • Spreading rumours

Cyberbullying (can take place via):

  • Instant messaging
  • Chat rooms
  • Emails
  • Social networking sites

Bystanders
Trinity has a long history of working towards reducing bullying at School. We encourage all of our students to be supportive bystanders. Students are all bystanders if they see or know something inappropriate or harmful is happening and do not take steps to try and stop it.

At Trinity we believe that every student has the right to be treated with respect and in turn have the responsibility to treat others with respect. We do not expect bystanders to put themselves at risk; rather take safe and effective steps to help the student/s in need.

Students can be supportive bystanders by doing the following:

  • Make it clear to your friends that you won’t be involved in bullying behaviour.
  • Never stand by and watch or encourage bullying behaviour.
  • Do not harass, tease or spread gossip about others, this includes social networking sites such as Facebook.
  • Never forward on or respond to messages or photos that may be offensive or upsetting.
  • Support the person who is being bullied to ask for help e.g. go with them to a place they can get help.
  • Report it to someone with authority or someone you trust e.g. at School to a teacher or a school counsellor, or to parents.

How parents can help?
It is important for parents to encourage open and honest discussion about issues and challenges from an early age. Being able to stay calm will assist your son in feeling comfortable in sharing his concerns. If you believe your son is being bullied, make time for him and be available to listen. Talking about the issue is the first step in helping your son.

Parents don’t need to have all of the answers. Rather, being there, acknowledging the concerns and trying to see the issue from your son’s perspective will assist greatly in developing trust. It is important to praise your son and reassure them that they are doing the right thing by talking about bullying.

Once the issue is understood, parents can help their sons review the options for reporting the behaviour. This may include encouraging your son to discuss the issues themselves or going with them to report it at School.

For more information relating to the wellbeing of boys, download our prospectus.

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Topics: Parenting tips, Bullying