Research indicates that in order for boys to open up and talk, action-orientated activities such as sport, physical activity and movement in general are found to have positive results.
Boys can often reveal problems and issues of concern when engaged in activities such as walking the dog, kicking a football and participating in experiences they particularly enjoy.
In his publication, Boys And Their Schooling, Ian Lillico writes about how many boys convert their feelings to movement. Lillico argues that it’s very natural for boys and men to need space and use movement when they have an emotion or feeling to deal with. Essentially, movement for boys can rekindle their feelings. Here are some ways that Lillico provides as examples:
- riding a bicycle
- outdoor play
- skateboard riding
- going for a walk
- exercising at the gym
- driving in a car
A boy’s need to be silent and his subsequent readiness to share what he is feeling is termed by William Pollack, author of REAL BOYS: Rescuing Our Sons from the Myths of Boyhood, as the ‘Timed Silence Syndrome’. We must learn to be sensitive to each boy’s unique timing. However, we must also be sensitive to the early signs of boys’ feelings being masked with the attitude that ‘everything is fine’.
Factors such as declining grades, rowdy behaviour, being unusually quiet or socially isolated can sometimes just be the tip of the iceberg.
Movement and physical activity is crucial for boys to process their feelings in a healthy manner and it’s necessary for parents to emphasise and engage in this with their sons.
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